After a couple of nudges I have finally sat down ready to write The Mama Tag. There’s nothing like a good tag post because it lets you learn so much about the person who’s writing it. I would like to thank Gee, Georgia and Claire for tagging me. It’s one of my favourite things to do so let’s get on with the show.
HOW OLD WERE YOU WHEN YOU HAD YOUR FIRST CHILD?
I was 23 years old!
WHAT WAS THE HARDEST THING ABOUT BEING PREGNANT FOR 9 MONTHS?
Hormones. I didn’t expect the roller coaster of emotions that I endured. Overall I really enjoyed my pregnancy but heartbreaking crying over a smashed marshmallow really tipped the iceberg. In the beginning I got really bad sickness and sciatica in the end. It made things really really uncomfortable and I resorted to sleeping on the floor at times to ease it. And in the end Imogen turned breech days before being born and turned back again. Very painful.
CAN YOU THINK OF ANY GOOD THINGS YOU ENJOYED DURING THOSE 9 MONTHS?
I was actually pregnant and went to Germany without realising and got drunk on my birthday – believe me that was the longest ‘hangover’ I thought I ever had. I had a little baby shower with my friends but instead of playing games we ate all the party food and watched horror films. I got to take care of my brother’s puppy who became attached to resting his paw on my stomach. And I LOVED all the little baby clothes and nesting and cleaning everything ready.
IN YOUR OPINION, WERE ALL OF THE THINGS YOU HEARD ABOUT CHILDBIRTH ACCURATE OR WAY OFF?
A bit of both. Childbirth was very very long and uncomfortable and there was no way my body was comfortable even trying everything recommended to me. I was very naive going into childbirth. I hadn’t watched one born every minute, no parenting books or Youtube. Just threw myself in head first and it was a lot different than I imagined. I didn’t realise that the contractions were at the top of your uterus and not your vagina. I didn’t realise how LONG it could take despite waters already breaking. Hospital food isn’t THAT bad it wasn’t the best but it was okay to eat. It was seriously draining. The adrenaline after made me feel like nothing had happened and that I was completely fine and ready to go straight home and tackle the laundy.
WOULD YOU HAVE HANDLED CHILDBIRTH DIFFERENTLY IF YOU COULD RE-DO IT?
I always wanted a water birth but the way I dealt with my pain was to slow breathe in silence and ride it out. I couldn’t have gotten into the birthing pool the way I was. If it ever happens again, it would be something I would love to do.
WHAT WOULD BE YOUR ADVICE FOR SOMEONE WHO IS ABOUT TO HAVE A BABY?
My top tip was even if you’re having a home birth, just in case, pack your babies clothes using this method. I used resealable bags with different size clothes in each, a nappy and a bag for a dirty nappy. It made things so much easier than rifling through your big hospital bag trying to sort through after the draining experience.
WHAT HAS BEEN THE HARDEST THING ABOUT BEING A MUM?
The lack of outside life. Being a stay at home mum means money is tight right now (I am looking now however) so it’s been hard for me to go out and socialise. Not just out on a night out, but I mean going anywhere there’s outside of my little town to talk to anyone. It’s very lonely and I’ve wrote about my time being a stay at mum and what it’s really been like for me.
WHAT HAS BEEN THE MOST REWARDING THING ABOUT BEING A MUM?
Her laugh. No matter how good or how bad of a day we’re having her laugh honestly makes my entire year. She’s started to sing nursery rhymes and knowing I’m the one who is teaching her everything and how bright she is. It’s just everything to me. She’s perfect.
WHAT WAS THE MOST SURPRISING THING YOU DISCOVERED ABOUT BEING A MUM?
I knew that being a mum was going to be hard, and the newborn stage would be tiring and the toddler stage would be draining with tantrums but I just didn’t expect how much they would blur. I didn’t think that my daughter turning 1 would be much harder than when she was 2.
WHAT IS THE BEST MEMORY YOU HAVE INVOLVING YOUR CHILD?
My favourite so far is when she said ‘love you’ back to me. Even though she’s stopped saying that now (she picks up phrases a lot and drops them). However what honestly makes me grin so so much is that when we visit a park she’ll run to the spot we last sat at (and it’s quite a big park) and say ‘Sit mummy! Pinic!’. It’s adorable and her memory is incredible. We always take snacks fruit and drinks with us now to the park and often have our dinners there.
WHAT WAS THE MOST EXCITING MILESTONE?
Everyone gets excited for every milestone whether it be teeth, food, talking and walking but my favourite one was her learning to roll over. It was so adorable and she would always roll over towards us. We used to make little games out of it and make her giggle and I miss them times already.
WHAT IS THE WORST THING YOUR CHILD HAS EVER DONE?
My little madam. She can be very full on and very mellow at the same time but I think the worst thing apart from trapping her finger on purpose in a toy, or doing the very things I tell her not to. Probably when she ripped the plant I’ve took over 6 months to nurture back to health. When you look after a plant that much and a child rips it to pieces even when its out of reach. Heartbreaking ha!
WHAT HABIT DO YOU WISH YOUR CHILD DIDN’T HAVE?
Pulling all the DVD’s off the shelves (and everything out of everywhere because he just wants to line them up). He creates SUCH a huge mess. It’s ridiculous. I was hoovering yesterday and our hoover is knackered so I have to use the hand held part rather than the actual hoover part and he got all of the toys out I’d tidied to be able to clean up and he got them all out and lined them up in front of me. It’s infuriating keep putting the same stuff back a hundred times a day. We try to get him to have a couple toys out at a time but to put them back if he wants something else. It’s not going very well.
WHAT HABIT OF THEIR MAKES YOU MOST PROUD?
If I ask her what she wants to do or what she wants for food she will go ‘uhmmmmm’ and then tell me so proudly of herself. She will tell me when she wants her bum changing and if she feels uncomfortable and wants her clothes off or on.
DO YOU SHARE ANY SIMILARITIES WITH YOUR CHILD? (BOTH PHYSICAL AND PERSONALITY?)
Physically no. We look nothing alike as she is the splitting image of her dad. We both have mood swings and she’s really into artistic things and being outside and puzzles which I think is from me!
WHERE WOULD YOU LIKE YOUR CHILD TO BE IN 10 YEARS?
In 10 years she will be just before turning a teenager. I hope she’s happy and has a few close friends and is passionate about something whether it be the latest pop band or train spotting. I want her to just be happy and enjoy spending time with me still and bond and be close.
IS THERE SOMETHING THAT HAVING A CHILD HAS TAUGHT YOU?
It’s taught me to grow up. Not maturity and stop acting childish, because that wasn’t me. But to step up and be a real adult and make big decisions. It’s taught me that I’m extremely emotional and that I will forever crave a big hug from her on the hard days. It’s taught me that I’m actually doing a fucking amazing job at being a mum because the amazing person she is, is 90% thanks to me.
DID YOU IMAGINE YOU’D BECOME A MUM AT THE AGE YOU BECAME A MUM?
Never. I never expected to ever have children, I have a huge fear of growing old and death so I always pictured myself to die at the age of 30. IT might be morbid thinking, but I just never expected to settle down and have a family.
DESCRIBE YOUR CHILD IN ONE SENTENCE.
My full on but cute and cuddly munchkin.
That was a lot tougher than I thought it would be! Trying to single down moments whilst Imogen is actively preparing my ‘dinner’ in her little kitchen and throwing everything everywhere. Now I tag Emily at Babies and beauty, Hannah from Little Snippets and Fern from Mumconventional.