There are days that I just want to have a bit of self love. I’m not afraid to admit it that yes, sometimes I want to take more care of myself and pamper myself and even take that special time out. I want to love myself mind, body and soul and take care of ME. But it’s not always that easy is it? We can all say willy nilly ‘ooh I’ll have a bath with a LUSH bath bomb and read a book and treat ma’self’ but realistically that’s not how it goes is it?
Personally I’m very critical of myself. I used to be the girl who refused to leave the house without looking perfect, hair done, makeup, nails. the works. Now you’re lucky to catch me without my hoodie and perfected mum bun and various stained leggings from god knows what from my toddler. Sorry about that world, but I honestly couldn’t give one as long as my daughter is happy. It’s just the truth. But I’ve become, Imogen’s mum and not just Lisa.
I’ve come to realise that I’ve started to lose touch with who I used to be. It would be nice to be able to paint my nails just because I CAN. Or even straighten and curl my hair just because I CAN. It would be nice to be able to have a drink once in a blue moon without having to worry about not hearing the monitor at night (I panic that even 1 beer will make me deep sleep for once in my life).
So to give myself some of that self love and care back there are things I want to do to be, well, me again. And not just Imogen’s mum. I’m both, so why shouldn’t I take care of me too, as well as her?
Have a pamper night.
Okay okay I know I said that it’s not all about pampering but sometimes I’d love to have a good soak in the bath instead of a rushed shower. I worry about Reece passing out from work and not hearing her if I go for a bath. Rarely I actually have a bath and relax. It would be lovely to actually chill out instead of thinking about the million jobs around the house I’ve got to do. So when he has his days off I make sure that I use that time and make it a thing with him that I get that bit of space to be able to.
Watch a romantic comedy film
Oh my gosh do you know how many times I’ve watched Shrek? I’ve already seen it every Christmas since before time but now I’m beyond done. Take me to Far Far Away. I just want to watch a proper chick flick and indulge in it and weep about the OTT story lines. This is a parent self love though but I’m sure you can apply it to every day life.
Have a good cry.
Not once have I read a self love post about crying. I love a good cry. It makes me feel like I’ve lifted a huge weight off my shoulders. I say all the things that are bothering me out loud and how shit I feel and have a huge cry. I tend to bottle everything up and burst. So I either do this alone or with my boyfriend if I want comfort. That’s just what it is to me. Comforting. There’s nothing wrong with crying especially when life gets hectic. Just remember things get better. So have a good cry because it’s nice to get it off your chest.
Mess around with makeup.
If you’re into makeup then this is an activity you should indulge in. I’m not talking about bomb ass makeup that makes you look to the nines. I’m talking about living that extra rainbow highlight with neon eyeshadow and OTT brows. Or even take it a step too far and turn yourself into Black Swan. It’s fun and it’s nice to have a mess about with makeup and be silly. This is good fun to do with a friend.
Watch something fun on Netflix.
Get a cosy blanket and binge a series even if it takes you weeks. It’ll be another tick off that mental list. I’m a sucker for RuPauls Drag Race and I highly recommend it. Watching these men turn into stunning ‘fish’ females and then the OTT old school drag artists is amazing and I’m here for it. It’s an incredible show that makes me so happy and it’s so inspiring. If you’re into a more serious watch, Mindhunters and 7 Seconds are INCREDIBLE.
Buy yourself some flowers or a plant.
There’s nothing I love more in my house than greenery. I’ve always loved plants and try my best to keep them alive and I’m doing okay so far touch wood! Just sometimes there’s nothing better than some fresh flowers smelling up your room. Go buy a bunch of Daffodils that are about £1 in the shops right now!
Set the mood.
I’m talking about that extra luxe feeling. Set a couple of candles, put the lights on low. Create a den and decorate it with fairy lights. I always feel cosier and happier in the Winter when I can get bundled up in throws and snuggle. You can still create that atmosphere after a long day. Put on your favourite music, get your favourite beverage, a blanket or two and set some candles. Let your mind wander. You don’t need to do it for that ‘bedroom feeling’ but for yourself. Indulge.
Read that book you’ve been putting off.
Okay so a little eye roll to myself considering I keep buying books and they’re filling up my shelves quicker than I can actually read them but now I’m writing it on the internet it needs to set in stone. Read that book. That one, you know the one you keep eyeing up and then forgetting about and scroll again for the millionth time on the worst algorithm Instagram has ever seen. Even if it’s a page a day, you’ll probably have read it by the end of the year. If you do it quicker, well, hats off to you. You did it. Just a little bit of time to yourself each day is allowing self love.
Go for a walk.
Practically I don’t really get to spend much time without my daughter. I’m with her 24 hours a day 7 days a week. That’s why I talk about her a lot, she’s glued to my side. As the weather is finally starting to change in the UK think about going for a walk. Even if it’s just down a dirt track. A bit of fresh air in the sunshine, play a bit of upbeat music and you’ll feel fabulous and positive. It used to be one of my favourite summer past times and I’m eager to have it back.
A digital detox.
Sometimes being on social media so much can takes it’s toll. I suggest two different things. The first is, if you’re not enjoying it anymore change something about it. Change who you’re following and follow those who you really want to and not so much because you think you have to. And the second is to take a break. There’s nothing wrong with taking a break from the internet. It’s nice to wind down and enjoy what’s really in front of your eyes.
Try and do something, you used to love.
Recently I was asked to do a painting for my mums friend. It’s been a couple of years since I picked up a paint brush and as much as I grumbled at the idea I felt so much better doing it. It’s been lovely to actually be able to paint and draw again. I know for me it’s not any every day thing but every so often, it would be nice to keep trying. Have you got any old hobbies you haven’t indulged in for a while?
Remove toxic relationships from your life.
It’s taken me a long time to do this. In my life I realised that if I wasn’t surrounding myself with the right people, I would always feel like I wasn’t good enough. Friends and family wise. Sometimes it’s hard to let go of toxic people in your life and reclaim that self love, but if they’re not radiating the positivity and support you need in your life, then it’s time to say goodbye. I know it’s not so simple as that, but it feels so much better when the people surrounding you are those lifting you up.
Finally, self love.
I am not a woman with a lot of confidence. It’s true. Slowly but surely I’m working on it and I love myself more now, than I ever have previously in life. Take time to remember that every single person on this planet is different. In mind, body and soul. You are unique and you should be proud of the person that you are. If you’re not happy about something, change it. Only you can do it.
What are your favourites things to do, when in indulging in yourself? Let me know below.